I think most women want what you want but few will really admit it.  Thank you for sharing and for your honesty.  That is a rare thing especially on this website.

"Thank you for sharing and for your honesty.  That is a rare thing especially on this website."

Wait a minute... what do you mean "especially on this website"

It's not too much to ask for at all, and I like to think it's what most people want.  The problem is that most people are inherently lazy and scared, and that level of intimacy / openness / comfort in a relationship is a great emotional investment that strips away all the little lies and facile poses that are exposed to the rest of the world.  Confronted with the necessity to unmask and be vulnerable, as well as to devote alot of time and effort into cultivating a relationship, I think most folks find it easier to just remain distant, satisfy their immediate needs, and move on.  Then again what do I know; I hide behind a fat cat.  :)

I'm gonna respond to everyone on this blog  LOL...

Blondy:  Honestly, I think it is too much to ask.  We cannot expect polictal animals to reduces some parts of their social interaction to idealized facets of exisitence.  You can't be excited without "drama", nor does it always have to hit or miss, good or bad.  You may want an equal, but do any of us really know who we are?  And I've hung out with myself... sometimes, I can be a really drag.  :(  And finally, it is a nice thought that there is someone out there that just knows what to do and when to do it... but that fantasy is hurtful.  That is a skill most have to learn.  What I'm saying is, this isn't something that will just appear, or come to you.  You will have to make it, sweat for it, cry for it, hurt for it... these things aren't free.  So in reguards to Computergirl's comment; it doesn't matter if they admit it or not.  If you aren't willing to GO for what you want, you won't GET what you want.  Assuming you KNOW what you want.

Don't worry Barrista, I like your site... after all, I have to most posts on the forum  LOL ;)

And BestBrain, I don't think people are inherently lazy or scared.  They might have learned to either or both, but that isn's something that just happened.  Think of how we see intimate relationships now.  Think of the world we live in... hell, think of where you are reading this right now.  Distant behavior is different that it was before.  And you said, you hide behind a fat cat... we see a ghost of you... a seed of you, made by you, that grows into a plant of our own choosing.  Does that make sense?  We are trained to play the game, to wear the mask and dance to the tune.  The nail that sticks out get's hammered down.  Is it any wonder that some find it hard to find, let alone expose, who they think they are?

... there... done  :p