Online Dating for Dummies
By Lisa Steadman, AKA The Relationship Journalist™
Have you ever gone out for a night on the town, a party at a friend’s house, or any other social occasion and met someone really cool? Someone you totally hit it off with, someone you thought you’d like to date only to find out that person’s in a relationship? Maybe you met their significant other and while they were nice, they were nowhere near as perfect for that person as you were? And didn’t you kick yourself later, thinking why didn’t I know? Why didn't he/she say something? The thing is, unless someone's wearing a ring, we can't tell if they're spoken for. I've often thought we needed some kind of elaborate tagging system in the dating world. Red tags mean in a serious relationship, yellow tags mean in a relationship but looking, green means footloose, fancy-free, and emotionally available. Enter online dating.
Online dating is the single person's answer to the nagging question - what's your status? Chances are, if you take the time to create a profile, upload photos, and pay the service fee, you're serious about meeting someone. And yes, there are the creeps out there who lie about their status, but for the sake of this article, we'll ignore them.
In the age of drive thru Starbucks, ATM banking, and 50+ hour work weeks, love is sometimes the last thing we're looking for. But as human beings, it still ranks up there in the list of things we need to survive. And online dating is a handy tool for finding that companionship in our increasingly busy lives.
The good news is this - up front you get a snapshot of what a person is all about. No guessing at their single status, their personality, their intentions. It's right there online. The bad news is this - like any form of dating, there are still a lot of frogs. And you might have to kiss a few along the way to meeting your prince or princess. My only advice is this. Keep an open mind. Don't get discouraged. Take a breather when you need to. But ultimately, keep on dating. We all know at least one success story - friends who met online and are living happily ever after. Who knows? You could be next. Good luck!