Nice Guys Finish Last

I have a confession. I'm dating a really nice guy. Now, no one's more surprised by this than I am. I used to think nice guys were boring. That they couldn't carry a stimulating conversation. I thought they lacked passion. Were probably bad in bed. Truthfully? I didn't think a nice guy could get me hot.

I was wrong.

Actually, I'm more than dating Mr. Nice Guy. We're cohabitating. And after spending months studying him in his natural environment, I realize there are a lot of misconceptions about nice guys. So, in an effort to demystify this often underappreciated breed of man, I'm going to share some of the truths I've uncovered about nice guys. And maybe next time you come across one - on a blind date, online, or at the bookstore - you'll shelve your preconceived notions and give him a shot.

Nice Guys Are Sweet

Nice guys plan great dates. And pay attention to our likes and dislikes for future dates. Nice guys show up on our doorsteps with flowers. Not long-stemmed red roses that give a "too much too soon" vibe. But pretty spring flowers that will remind us of the great time we had long after he drops us off with a quick kiss and a promise to call again.

Nice Guys Call

I think we can all agree. Guys who say they'll call and then never do are SO 2005. Because there are nice guys who actually call when they say they're going to. And when they call, chances are they're going to tell us what an amazing time they had on our last date. They'll even ask us out again. All we have to do is be gracious and say yes. Bad boys may have conditioned us to think dating and relationships have to be hard but the truth is, with a nice guy things are fabulous, fun, and drama-free! (And isn't that what we deserve?)

Nice Guys Are Smart

Remember the hottie slackers we lusted after in high school and college? Not so hot anymore, are they? What's super hot in 2006 are smart guys. They have good jobs. And pay their bills. And listen to NPR or watch PBS or have a subscription to Newsweek or The Atlantic Monthly or National Review. Which not only makes them well-informed, but excellent conversationalists. And who doesn't want a guy who can both listen AND share?

Nice Guys Are Ambitious

Maybe they're not as flashy as those career-obsessed men we used to think would make great husbands/providers. Or maybe they don't toot their own horn on a daily basis. But don't be fooled, Ladies. Nice guys possess ambition. They just don't feel the need to broadcast their accomplishments to the world. An ambitious guy who doesn't brag and boast all the time? Jackpot!

Nice Guys Are Attentive

Ambition's important. But nice guys strike a balance between professional ambition and their personal lives. Sure, they give a lot of time and energy to their careers. But nice guys recognize the value of a good woman and make time for us even during hectic times. Nice guys snuggle on the couch. And cook us dinner. And remind us every day how much they love us.

Nice Guys Are Passionate

Let's be honest. We assume nice guys are bad kissers. Bland in bed. Inexperienced, right? Not true! Nice guys can be just as passionate - if not more so - than those emotionally stunted bad boys we've been dating all these years. And nice guys aren't just passionate in the sack, they're passionate in life. Nice guys volunteer. Nice guys recycle. Nice guys love women. Nice guys aim to please. And who doesn't want a man who loves his life AND knows how to go downtown? Can I get an Amen?!

Nice Guys Are Sexy

Not only are they passionate, but nice guys are definitely sexy! Maybe they'll never be on a billboard in Times Square in their underwear. But when he wears that blue t-shirt that shows off his deliciously broad shoulders and those jeans that hug his butt just right? HELLO! Who needs a himbo with six pack abs and narcissistic tendencies when we can have a nice guy with soulful eyes that focus on us?

Nice Guys Take It Slow

Nothing's sexier than a man who isn't in a rush to get in our pants. Sure, we all want to be wanted. But we don't want to be groped on Date #2. Or have to fend off grabby hands before we're ready to give up the goods. Nice guys get that. It's not that they don't want us. It's just that they're not in a hurry to heat things up until they know us better. So the next time we're baffled by a boy who seems content to just kiss on his couch, remember this - taking things slow may be new to us, but that nice guy is definitely worth the wait!

Nice Guys Let Us Finish First

OK, Ladies. How many of us have fallen victim to the hot guy who skips over foreplay or races to orgasm before we even heard the starter pistol? Oh yeah. Been there, done that. Never again. And with nice guys, we don't have to worry about that! Nice guys want us to finish first. In fact, they do everything in their power to ensure we finish first. They're in no rush. They like and respect us AND think we're hot. And they know the secret to keeping a good woman happy is to meet her needs - in AND out of bed. (Honestly, if that doesn't cause you to reconsider nice guys, I don't know what will!)

So there you have it. The little known secrets of nice guys. They may let us finish first but isn't it time they got props for doing so? Let's make 2006 the Year of the Nice Guy. Who's with me?

About The Relationship Journalist™

Lisa Steadman, AKA The Relationship Journalist™, is the site creator and editor of www.BreakupChronicles.com featuring true life tales of how breaking up with the Wrong person was the Right thing to do. She considers herself a dating guinea pig and accidentally met someone fabulous - Mr. XY - while on assignment last year and has been happily hooked up ever since. (This stuff really works!!!)